There is nothing wrong with being shy
Most of the time, a shy kid is not likely to get into troubles at school. They are also more well-behaved. So, shyness is generally not a cause for concern if it does not upset your child. However, seek professional help if your child:
−Hate going to school
−Can’t make friends
−Is scared of social gatherings such as birthday parties
−Is worried about their shyness
Shy kids are often self-reliant, thoughtful, and empathetic. People often assume shy kids hate socializing. In fact, they probably just do not know how to do that as well as being scared of doing that the wrong way. It takes them more time to warm up and adjust to new situations. You should let them take their time and adjust at a pace they are comfortable with.
Why is your child so shy?
Statistically speaking, shyness is not hard to find. Approximately 20% to 48% of the population have it. While negative experiences may induce shyness, most people are just born with it. If your child is outgoing but suddenly becomes shy and quiet, they might have experienced something bad and they will need professional help to get over it.
The right way to parent a shy kid
Offer ice-breaker lines
It’s important to teach your kid how to approach new people, how to find a break in the conversation and join in. You can get them to learn some lines to help break the ice such as “Oh, I like it too.”
Make sure your kid knows that you sympathize with them. Tell them your stories of how you overcame your shyness.
Make a good role model
Children love to imitate their parents. So, it would be helpful if you can model outgoing behavior for them to learn. When you meet people, try your best to be friendly and sociable so your child can learn from you.
Practical tips to help your shy kid
Practice makes perfect. You can help your shy kid practice socializing by letting them:
−Answer the home phone
−Order meals when you eat out
−Give money to the cashier when you go shopping
−Call their friends
−Saying “please” and “thank you” to adults whom they are not familiar with (But you have to know those people well, or else, do not let your kid approach them at all.)
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