Accepting yourself or resigning yourself to fate

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Update Date 12/05/2020
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Accepting yourself and resigning yourself to fate are two completely different things. Resigning yourself to fate means that you give up and stop fighting with problems. Self-acceptance, on the other hand, means stop fighting or blaming yourself and focus on other battles in your life, which is much harder than the former one.

Here is an example to illustrate the difference between those two. A boy was in a car accident, which impaired his vision. He grieved, of course. But the disability did not break him down. He accepted his new stated and learned to live without light. In other words, he accepted himself, but did not resign himself to fate. He tried to fight all the problems arose, finished school, found a job and got married. If he had resigned himself to fate, he would have had giving up on everything, and ended up mourning for himself the rest of his life.

When you decide to accept yourself, you embrace all of your aspects, both the positive and the negative parts. You acknowledge your weaknesses and limits, but you do not hate yourself for it. People are more aware of their shortcomings rather than their strengths. Changing that is the first step to self-acceptance. You can try to realize your strength by making a list of all the hardships you have overcome and all the good decisions you have made. You will be surprised at the number of good things exist in you.

Most of the negativity you feel about yourself stem from other people. As human beings, we are all afraid of being judged. What you need to do is staying away from people who often make you feel bad about yourself. Do not allow them to hurt you. Be around your friends and family – those who love and accept you unconditionally will help you start to accept yourself.

Everyone makes mistakes once in a while. That is the mechanism of learning. Keep in mind that mistakes provide you with opportunities to learn and grow. Because you cannot change the past, remind yourself you did the best you could. This way, you will be able to forgive yourself and move on.

Generally, accepting yourself is letting go of your mistakes and things out of your control. Self-acceptance is powerful since it keeps you focus on what you can control, thus making the best of the situations.

Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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    Sources

    Sood, A. The Mayo Clinic guide to stress-free living. Page 149, 150.

    Therapists Spill: 12 Ways to Accept Yourself. http://psychcentral.com/lib/therapists-spill-12-ways-to-accept-yourself/. Accessed September 18, 2016

    The Path to Unconditional Self-Acceptance. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/200809/the-path-unconditional-self-acceptance. Accessed September 18, 2016

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