How to recognize a troubled teenager?
Troubled teenagers may have those signs:
Negatives changes in their appearance
Following the latest fashion trends is nothing to worry about. However, negative changes such as cutting, self-harm or extreme weight gain or weight loss are unusual.
Playing truant, involving in fights, having increased arguments or using violence at home are all the warning signs of a difficult teen.
Emotional changes in teenage years are normal. But parents should pay attention to the tenacious sadness, anxiety, problems with sleeping, etc.
Alcohol or drug use
If using alcohol or drug becomes frequent in your teen’s life, there must be a problem.
How to help troubled teens?
Tip 1: Build a connection between you and your teenage child
Although adolescence hits them so hard that teens become troubled people, from the insides, they are still kids who are always reaching for their parents’ love, care, and approval. Parents, indeed, have more influence on their troubled child than they think. Parents just need to:
Control your own feelings
If you are at high-stress levels or in an angry or upset state of mind, do not start a conversation with teenagers. Talk to them once you are all calm.
Always be available
Keep looking for chances to have a conversation with your teen. For example, invite your teen to have dinner with you where there are no distractions like TV or other people. If he refuses, do not get angry. If he agrees, during the meal, encourage him to look at you and speak to you. He may not want to speak, do not get low-spirited. After all, you can not expect him to follow all of your commands, you just want to make sure that, whenever he wants to talk, you are here for him.
Never give judgments
When your teen talks to you, remember to be a good listener rather than a judge. Do not mock, interrupt, criticize or even offer advice if they don’t ask for it. Maintain eye contact and keep on focusing even if the child does not look at you, this will make them feel important and valued.
Tip 2: Build a healthy lifestyle
This will help bring a healthy life back to your troubled teen. You may need to:
Form a structure
Set mealtimes and bedtimes. Although they may rebel against them, they can feel safe and secure from the inside. What if they react negatively? Those arguing and screaming can never be compared to your child’s wellness.
Exercise has properties to reduce stress, boost up moods and energy, increase sleep quality, and also enhance confidence. If possible, encourage your teen to join a sports club where other well-behaved fellows can positively influence him.
Design a healthy eating plan
A healthy diet can bring about more than you think. It can sharpen one’s mind, boost their mood and stabilize their energy level.
Tip 3: Care for yourself, too
While helping your troubled child to get back to his normal life, stress is unavoidable. Thus, on your own health too. Pay attention to your physical and emotional states as well as have the proper method to destress.
You might also want to read:
- Help Young Children Understand and Build Friendships
- Teen Addiction: Is Your Child’s Friend A Bad Influence
- When You Don’t Like Your Kid’s Friend
Hello Health Group does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
Review Date: August 30, 2017 | Last Modified: August 30, 2017
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