What to Do When Your Child Ignores You (Part 1)

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Have you ever been in a scenario where dinner time is approaching and your kid is watching TV? You tried to call them to dinner but it is no use, he is still glued to the TV! If this happens too many times, you are bound to get angry. However, calm down a bit and think about it this way: it is normal when a child doesn’t listen to you.

Children often don’t listen to an adult for a number of causes: They could be paying too much attention to what they’re doing, or have not heard you, or sometimes they can even ignore you on purpose. During the stage of development, children are increasing their cognitive skills and will try to act as an adult. Thus, they would want to do things their ways.

When your child ignore you or refuse to talk to you, what you should do is ask yourself: “Why are they doing that? What do they need?” You should set limits to what your child can do and what they cannot do. Let them know that if they keep ignoring you, there will be consequences. When they calm down and are more willing to talk, sit them down and have a chat with them. Try to not yell or shout at them for not listening to you. This will only put more strain on your relationship.

Here are some situations where your child might not listen to you or ignore you. In these cases, you need to have a gentle and smart approach with your child.

My child refuses to greet other people

When your child refuses to greet house guests or relatives, this will become a bad habit and considered a rude behavior. Thus, instead of pushing the child on the scene and making it hard for everyone, you should wait until after the guests left to talk to your child. You can say: “We’re nice to your guests, if you’re not nice to our guests, this is what’s going to happen.”

Tell them what are the consequences of their rudeness. For example, giving a restriction on cell phones and TV is often effective. Make the punishment simple and clear.

If your child tries to argue, don’t argue back with them, tell them, “Don’t talk to me that way, we can talk after you calm down,” and walk away.

My child won’t interact with their siblings

In a family with children with a considerable age gap, or if the child often plays with cousins not at the same age as them, you might notice the kids growing apart from their siblings as they grow older. If this happens to your children, you should talk to the younger child and let them know that their brother/sister/cousin is growing up and wants to play with older kids, it’s not that the older child hates them.

At the same time, talk to your older kid and let them know that they are hurting their little brother/sister by ignoring them. What you’re communicating to them is, “You’re very powerful, and you’re hurting me by hurting your brother.”

Sometimes even children need some space to themselves to get themselves together. ” Teach your kids to be close to each other voluntarily instead of trying to force an interaction between them.


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