Anger is a healthy, normal emotion, but when it is out of control, it can have serious effects on your relationships, your physical health, and your state of mind. With the insight into the real reasons behind your anger expressions and some tips about anger management, you could learn how to keep your temper at bay.
Why do I need to control anger?
The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. Just as any other emotion, it’s conveying a message, expressing your feeling about a situation which is upsetting, threatening, or unjust. While it’s pretty usual to feel angry when you were mistreated, anger becomes a major problem when you express it in a harmful way to yourself or others. That’s why there are some anger management tools.
How do I control anger?
The purpose of anger management is not to conceal the anger but rather to understand the reason behind the emotion and express it in a healthy way without harms. When you succeed, not only will you feel better, you will also be able to manage conflict in your life, thus strengthen your relationships.
Here are some of the tips which can help you gain a better understand about your anger and have it under control:
Think before you speak. Take a few moments to recollect everything you think before saying it out loud.
Once you’re calm, express your anger. Express your issues clearly and directly, without hurting one another or trying to control them.
Get some exercise. A slow walk or run, or spend time having some physical activities is a great recommendation for escalating your anger.
Take a timeout. A few moments of silence might help you feel better prepared to control what is coming up without getting irritated or worrying.
Identify possible solutions. Always self-remind that anger won’t fix anything, it only makes things worse. As a result, instead of focusing on what made you mad, try to resolve the concern at hand.
Use humor to release tension. Lightening up can release stress. However, remember to avoid sarcasm, it can hurt people’s emotions and make things worse.
Practice relaxation skills. Deep-breathing exercises, meditation, or yoga might help a lot in controlling your temper. You can also listen to music, write down anything you like or whatever it takes to increase relaxation.
Know when to seek help. If your anger seems out of control, consider seeking help from a close friend, your GP, or psychologist, otherwise, you may do things you will regret later or hurts people around.
Learning the art of anger management is a challenge for everyone at times. Mastering it takes a lot of work, but the more you practice, the easier it will become.
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Review Date: March 16, 2017 | Last Modified: March 16, 2017
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