Resilience is defined as ‘the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties and the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape’. Something similar happens to the human being. Resilient people get along well with stressful conditions and life-changing situations. They are not tortured by negative emotions, they move on from traumatic events and get through those difficult times that threaten them with adversity.
Resiliency is not necessarily inherent, in fact, skills to be more resilient can be learned. Here are 10 tips to help you become more resilient.
#1 Create an emotional support team
Those who are resilient have close relationships with their friends and relatives. These people will give you support to handle difficult situations. As a matter of fact, the first step to being more resilient is to surround yourself with people who always listen and be supportive without any judgments.
#2 Accept the fact that stressful situations occur but they are not overwhelming
What were your biggest issues happening a year ago? 3 years ago? Or even 5 years ago? Do you still remember? We encounter stressful situations all the time but in fact, they manage to be resolved or simply disappear somehow as new problems show up. Therefore, keep in mind that no matter how severe and serious the problem you are facing seems, it is not insurmountable and you will get through it sooner or later.
#3 Create goals for your life
Make sure your objectives are realistic and attainable. Take each goal individually and focus only on that step until it is completed. This will also help you deliver a sense of satisfaction and a boost to your self-esteem.
#4 Look at all situations as an opportunity to learn and grow
While you deal with a stressful situation, think about what you can achieve from that situation and how you can turn it into advantages to make your life better.
#5 Accept that change is inevitable
Sometimes we are afraid of a situation because it requires change in our life, and it is the unknown that we worry about. However, change is a natural part of life, keep in mind that you have made it through many changes prior to this, hence you will make it through much more.
#6 Focus on your strengths
When resolving a problem, many people usually fall back on “I can’t do this” and look at all their failure and reasons why this will be difficult. Instead, always stay focus on the strengths you have (and of course, we all have strengths) and how those strengths will aid you during this time.
#7 Know your shortcomings
Just as important as using your strengths is recognizing your shortcomings. There may be parts of your current situation you can not fix or deal with on your own. Rather than becoming confused, reach out to others to help you solve those parts.
#8 Accept that there are certain things you cannot change
Don’t waste your time and energy trying to change those situations that are constant. Instead, use your energy to focus on changing yourself and your attitude toward the situation. You can’t control everything in your life, but you can control how to react to it.
#9 Learn from your past
How did you do to manage through many obstacles in your life up to this point? What did you acknowledge from those difficult times? Use lessons from your past to help you get through the current situation.
#10 Practice optimism
People who are resilient always have an optimistic viewpoint. If you constantly feel pessimistic or look from a negative side, try to practice changing your thoughts to look on the bright side. Continue to remind yourself to adjust your thoughts to be more optimistic and positive.
To sum up, resilience is not a trait exclusive to some people. It can be trained since certain factors contribute to developing it. Therefore, everyone can develop a unique strategy to awaken and increase resilience.
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Review Date: February 20, 2017 | Last Modified: February 21, 2017
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